von Marwitz
Forum Guru
One last consideration: we are all getting older. When our time comes, you're leaving behind a mess for someone else to clean up. I promised my kids I wouldn't do that to them after I have watched other parents do it to their kids. In the end, it is actually quite liberating once you get past the initial shock. To quote Tyler Durden: the things you own end up owning you. -- jim
There is something to it. But you can do it in different ways:
Of course, you could throw away things, give them away or sell them while you still live despite they mean something to you. This may make it easier for those that remain when you have passed - but maybe you are not happy with it while you live.
Then, you could prepare things in a different way, getting things in order and leave notes:
"Son, you know that all things ASL meant much to me in my days but I also know that you don't play it and it will be too much of a fuss for you to sell it off on eBay when I am no more. Here is a rough list of the stuff. I'd be happy to pass it on to people who would appreciate it rather than to have it thrown away. You could offer it for free at GameSquad forum or..."
or
"Daughter, you know I have always reveled in my books and library. I am aware that you are not interested at all in tanks & guns. And many of my books might not be worth to keep albeit they served me well and made me feel 'at home' til the end. The reason why I have kept them until then. There are some books that were special to me, though, and here is why... If you want to keep some of my books out of interest, take any you want. Do you want to keep some of them for purposes of remembrance, then pick some of that list."
This is a lot of work - admitted. But it would be a good compromise as you are surrounded with the things that mean something to you while you live, yet makes it easier for those who remain when you have passed.
von Marwitz