I did some testing on this today using a .vsav file from Jazz.
With both players using 3.5.8, no issues. LOS buttons grey out when opponent clicks their los button. LOS buttons return to active when opponent clears the los check
With both players using 3.6.3, LOS buttons grey out when opponent clicks their los button. LOS buttons return to active when opponent clear the lost check. Mostly. On several occassions it did not. If the opponent then conducted and cleared another los check, the buttons returned to active.
I think a command to the remote computer is not always being sent. I will have to do some detailed testing to determine if this is the case. In the meantime, if this happens to you, another los check should get the other players los buttons to reactivate.